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NOTE:
No one can Become Unhookable for you.
On the other hand, no one can stop you from Becoming Unhookable.
The Art of Being Hookable
To get somewhere else than where you are, you first have to know where you are. Probably, you are still hookable. Are you hookable from hooks, buttons, triggers, voices, physical imbalances or unhealed traumas?
Hooked From The Inside Or The Outside
Being unhookable is one of 7 core skills of a Possibility Manager and one that will change your life.
When you are hooked, you go to sleep. Being hooked is being captured by your Box’s mechanical reactivity and your Gremlin defense mechanism getting triggered. You lose the possibility of choosing from alternative options.
Being hooked cuts you off from the flow of the universe and forces your Box to run your life. The Box is a dead machine, so when you are hooked you lose your sentient multi-dimensional relatedness and turn into a robotic slave. This explains how people can soldier in the name of corporate agendas, fight religious wars, or replace self-exploration and service with daily financial desperation.
There are two hooked states to detect: hooked from the inside, and hooked from the outside.
Being hooked from the inside is when your empty space of silence is filled to the point where you become convinced of your own monologue (in technical terms: when you believe your own bullshit). This is when people join the ranks of the walking dead, when parents turn fanatical, or when consumers and employees accept being brainwashed. When you get innerly hooked you have no empty space to use for shifting into other possible ways of being.
Being hooked from the outside is when your empty space is crushed by your Box’s survival reactions to external stimuli (in technical terms: when you believe their bullshit). Your Box’s neurotic reflex tramples your free inner space and discards it like a wadded up piece of litter. When you get outerly hooked you lose the silent inner emptiness out of which to generate nonlinear ways of behaving.
In both cases, under a survival imperative, your Box and Gremlin jump up and run your life instead of you.
Your Box Gets Hooked
Being unhookable means having the capacity to act independently from the circumstances, no matter what the circumstances are.
A 'hook' is any stimulus that might cause an automatic emotional reaction. The list of potential hooks is endless. It can drive people instantly nuts if you chew with your mouth open, ring the doorbell twice, insinuate that someone is stupid, criticize someone’s religion, brag about your kids’ grades, give problem solutions unasked for, continuously talk, make house decoration suggestions, refuse to tell your birthday, give away a movie plot before someone has seen the movie, and so on.
Obviously it is not you that gets hooked; it is your Box that gets hooked. You can prove this because different hooks catch different kinds of 'fish', meaning what hooks one person’s Box may be invisible to another’s. The instant you are hooked you lose access to any possibilities other than your Box’s mechanical reactions – you forget what Extraordinary and Archetypal possibilities are and how to go there. You are stuck in Ordinary. The brain dumps a truckload of hormones into your system and your adrenaline shoots through the roof. You can’t hide being hooked because everybody around you sees and feels the side effects. It takes a minimum of fifteen minutes to metabolize the chemicals out of your system and return to normal again – fifteen minutes you will never get back again.
Each of us contains a variety of internal characters or parts, one of which – known as the “Gremlin”– derives great joy by hooking other people. Some Gremlins entertain themselves by seeing how many people they can hook in a day, because once a person is hooked, the Gremlin has won. Hooking others is also a strong defensive strategy for the Box because once you have hooked someone else they have no power to create unpredictable behaviors.
Human beings are so easily hooked that if you actually succeed at becoming even partly unhookable you almost seem inhuman. Staying unhookable, while still remaining human, is an art form.
Staying Unhookable
Staying unhookable does not mean unfeeling, isolated, shut down or numb. On the contrary, staying unhookable means that you perceive the hooks with great sensitivity and precision, and while still being compassionate, you shift slightly into a different space before the hooks have a chance to set into the psychological flesh of your Box.
Staying unhookable is not so different from bullfighting. The toreador knows that a bull performs certain predictable movements, which are neither good nor bad; they are simply the movements that bulls make. To interact with the bull the toreador stands with his Red Cloth to his side, not in front of him. The bull automatically goes for the red cloth. With the cloth held to the side, the bull runs past while doing no harm. The toreador stays in contact with the bull but does not get hit. If the toreador held his cloth in front of him he would bullfight no longer. He would be hooked.
Hooks can be anything – looks, gestures, sounds, physical objects – so you cannot stay unhookable by simply trying to avoid hooks. A true capacity for staying unhookable emerges through first admitting that you are indeed hooked when you realize you are hooked.
Start by naming your condition. Say, “I am hooked.” Notice what it feels like, how often it occurs, how long it lasts, and what your hooked-reaction-patterns tend to be. Consciousness creates freedom. Your ability to stay unhookable matures through increased awareness of your Box’s hookability.
- "Becoming Unhookable is an Identity-Shift,not a skill that you can 'master'."
- Clinton Callahan
Reactivity
If your action is actually reaction, then you are not being you. You are being a Zombie.
Common Symptoms Of Being Hooked:
There are a zillion indicators that you are Hooked when you are Hooked, so many that pretending you are not Hooked when you ARE Hooked is silly.
Here are some examples:
• Feeling offended or insulted, being stressed, worrying, disapproving
• Swearing, striking out, destroying, attacking, throwing dishes, kicking the dog
• Making physical gestures or faces (giving the finger, sticking out the tongue, etc.)
• Childish fears or sadness, feeling as a victim, sacrificing yourself, playing small
• Resenting, judging, criticizing, blaming, threatening, overdoing it, underdoing it
• Trying to be right, defending yourself, justifying yourself
• Being numb, being indifferent (as opposed to being neutral)
• Pouting, sulking, making excuses, giving up hope, resignation
• Being cynical, ironical, being self–important, bragging, exaggerating
• Being stuck in linear thinking, trying to be prepared for anything
• Competing, challenging, comparing yourself with others, envy, jealousy
• Excluding others, feeling superior, trying to look good, being arrogant
• Thinking that you have lost, feeling like a failure, isolating, feeling depressed
• Defending your position, arguing, giving reasons, saying, “Yes, but…”
• Being adaptive, ‘kissing ass’, giving your center away, trying to be nice
• Manipulating, blackmailing, forcing your way, trying to enforce control
• Complaining, feeling ‘sour grapes’, saying “So what!”; ignoring someone
• Backbiting, gossiping, triangulating, having arguments in your mind
• Forgetting your destiny or your Bright Principles
• Thinking of having a drink... or a smoke...
• Panicking, compulsive behavior, addictive behavior, mechanical behavior
• Being embarrassed, saying, “I cannot,” feeling stage fright, being stuck at Go
• Losing your attention, being distracted by advertising, snooping, voyeurism
• Hesitating, being speechless, stalling, delaying, oversleeping, daydreaming
• Answering questions with questions, saying, “Of course!”
• Name calling, making fun of someone, imitating someone else’s mannerisms
• Interrupting conversations, having to tell your opinion, having to do something
• Saying, “Always…” or, “Never…” trying to be perfect, trying to be the best
• Thinking that you can win, trying to profit, trying to have power over others
• Trying to Hook someone back, trying to piss someone else off
• Pretending to be unhookable… and so on.
NOTE: The moment you have any of the above behaviors, attitudes or experiences, you are hooked! (Go directly to jail – do not pass GO. Do not collect $200.)
It does not work to try to be unhookable once you are already hooked. You re-enter reality by simply admitting, “I am hooked!” Then giving yourself a pause before starting over.
6 Types Of Hooking Mechanisms
One of the most powerful blocks against linear and nonlinear Possibility is ‘being Hooked’.
‘Being Hooked’ refers to an emotional state of Reactivity that arises through unconsciously responding to:
- A BUTTON that is designed into your Box as a rule, belief, conclusion, assumption, expectation, judgement, bias, etc.
- A HOOK that is thrown by another Gremlin to seduce your Gremlin into a Gremlin Feeding Frenzy.
- A TRIGGER Phrase that opens the door to your internal energy world as a 24 hour all-you-can-eat free-for-all buffet for energetic vampire entities to devour your life energy and force you into low energy, hiding-out behaviors, and depression.
- An psycho-emotional TRAUMA that has not yet been made conscious and used responsibly as a Doorway to a Transformational Emotional Healing Process.
- An IMBALANCE in the physical body caused by improper diet, over-eating, under-eating, toxins in the system including phone radiation, WiFi radiation, food additives, exhaustion, stress or hormonal imbalances.
- A VOICE in your head which you still listen to that comes from an external authority figure which you have not taken your Authority back from, still give your Center to, still behave Adaptively towards.
'Be that which nothing can take root in.'
- Lee Lozowick
99 Ways for Being Unhookable
...each way is a step along a path of practice, a step you take over and over.
01-24 Experiments for Being Unhookable
Practice is a path of Discovery!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY LOWERING YOUR NUMBNESS BAR
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.01
The hint that tells you that your numbness bar is high is that you do not even notice that you are hooked until hours, days, maybe months after the incident that hooked you. During those hours, days or months, you were hooked and out of the present without noticing it, and therefore without a choice about it.
Lowering your numbness bar makes you more sensitive to when you are hooked or even about to be hooked so that you have a choice about being hooked or staying unhookable.
Once a day, for an entire week, take 20 minutes for yourself and bring your Beep! Book along. Go through your interactions of the day, one by one and check thoroughly how and what hooked you in your interaction.
- What is the tone of their voice?
- What is the word they used?
- What is an idea of them? an old story that you've heard too often?
- What is the voice in your head telling you 'you were not good enough, not smart enough to talk to them' or maybe 'you are too busy and too brilliant to spend time with those people'?
- What is their physical appearance?
- What is the story that you have about them?
Write clearly and descriptively your hook and the emotions that came with it (anger, sadness, fear or joy). Keep your Beep! Book around and start paying attention to when those particular hooks take you out (they will more often than you think!!).
The sooner you can notice the hooks, the less time you have to be hooked. Lowering your numbness bar one step at a time, one hook at a time, creates in you an awareness of the sensation of being hooked. Soon, you will notice that sensation before you let your Box and Gremlin get hooked and that is when you have the real choice: to stay awake, present and loving or to go in survival. It is a choice worth working for.
At the end of this week, please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY BECOMING CENTERED
Matrix Cod: BUNHOOKA.02
Being centered is a sensation, not a concept. Being centered is the sensation that you experience when you put your energetic center on your physical center (your center of gravity).
Being centered is the sensation when you stand in your own power. When you do not give you power/center away to authority figures.
You can also give your center away to ideas, or to the future or to the past.
For a whole week, practice Being Centered. Every time you pass through a doorway, pause for several moments and bring your attention to your Physical Center, and use your Clicker to move your Energetic Center onto your Physical Center. Also do this before you get out of bed, before you go to sleep, and before you eat or drink. Put up signs to remind yourself.
At the end of each day, write in your Beep! Book about any ways or people, ideas that you gave your center to. Did you give it to the past or the future? This is not about right or wrong this is about noticing.
When the week is over, please log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.02.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY BECOMING GROUNDED
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.03
Your Grounding Cord connects your energetic Center to the center of the Earth, the center of Gaia.
This connection functions in both directions:
- As a grounding cord to dispose of unneeded energies into Gaia.
- As a receiver of personal and general impulses directly from Gaia.
No one can Become Grounded for you.
More interestingly, no one can stop you from Becoming Grounded.
For a whole day, split 10%-5% of your attention to notice your Grounding Cord as you move through your day. Start with the percentage you need to maintain noticing it.
Use your clicker, with a burst of low intensity Anger to declare your Grounding Cord, and keep noticing it.
Notice, as you move through your day if your Grounding Cord changes colour, and any other changes. Notice if you need to raise the percentage of your split attention to keep noticing your Grounding Cord.
Set an alarm to go off every hour to remind you you are doing this experiment in case you forget.
At the end of the day, record in your Beep! Book for 20 minutes about what happened.
After completing this experiment, please log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.03
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
Keep doing this experiment for the rest of your life. Notice the change in percentage of split attention it takes as you practice over the years.
Give your Gremlin the job of catching you if you become ungrounded.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY STAYING BUBBLED
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.04
When you stay in a Small NOW in the Present and use your Split Attention, your Intention, and your Clicker, you can energetically Declare a Bubble of personal space.
The Bubble is an Experiential Distinction that surrounds your Physical Body at about half-an-arm's distance.
The Bubble is transparent, flexible, and resilient.
Inside the Bubble is your own personal Space.
Outside the Bubble is everyone else's Space.
Psychic etiquette demands that the inside of your Bubble remain free of everyone else's energy.
The indicator that you have someone else's energy in your Space is if you are having a conversation or argument with another person in your mind.
Having a cleansed and renewed Bubble is part of the First Position of a Possibility Manager.
For a week, at the beginning, middle and end of each day, set your Bubble and for five minutes, use your attention and intention to:
- for one minute, cleanse it,
- for another minute, spin it slowly in one direction
- and the other, for another minute, then
- for one minute expand and contract your bubble as you breathe, and
-for one more minute just be with your bubble, feeling it, and enjoying it.
At the end of the week, log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter the code: BUNHOOKA.04
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY DOING COMPLETION LOOPS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.05
Conscious communication with Completion Loops is so simple, rewarding, and enjoyable.
How do you do it?
You complete the communication from the other person before starting the next communication of your own.
Read the Completion Loops website about Roadblocks and how to do completion loops.
For one week, at the end of every day, in your Beep! Book, write down examples of when you used either Road Blocks or Completion Loops. For the first day, just notice, and write about it. From the second day, on, commit to catching yourself using Road Blocks, and use Completion Loops instead. You may need to ask people for Do-Overs.
Each evening for 20 minutes, write in your Beep! Book about how it's going.
At the end of the week, log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter the code: BUNHOOKA.05
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY SAYING: "I FEEL MAD/SAD/GLAD/SCARED ABOUT THIS BECAUSE..."
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.06
We have been discovering that human beings have only four feelings: anger, sadness, joy, and fear, from which every other feeling or emotion is made.
The four primary feelings are like the primary colors from which all other colors can be made.
Clearly communicating about your feelings and emotions establishes deep connections between people almost instantly. Learning how to clearly communicate your feelings and emotions does not take so long.
To do this experiment, first review the website 4 Feelings with a friend, or with a team, and if you are doing it with a team, pair people up for a week long experiment.
Agree with your experiment partner about who will go first, and for the duration of the week, make time to send messages back and forth to each other so that you each send at least five messages a day.
To do this, pause, notice your four feelings: anger, sadness, fear and joy, and compose a text to your partner beginning with:
I feel anger about/I feel angry because....
I feel sadness about/I feel sad because....
I feel fear about/I feel scared because....
I feel joy about/I feel glad because....
When you have completed the four sentences, send the message, and this will prompt your partner to respond, "Thank you," and, when they are able, to pause, notice and write their own four sentences.
At the end of the week, in your next Team meeting, or of you are doing this with one partner, have a call or visit with them to tell about how you felt and what you thought about doing this experiment together.
At the end of the week, log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter the code: BUNHOOKA.06
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY MAKING BOUNDARIES USING CONSCIOUS ANGER
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.07
On the Old Map of Four Feelings, when we feel angry, we believe (or others think of us) that we are aggressive, out of control, dangerous, loud, crazy, hysterical, we create conflict, we destroy everything.
On the New Map of Four Feelings, each feeling has its own unique information and energy that is your own rocket fuel to fulfill your Destiny.
With anger you can start, stop and change things, you can say no/yes, say stop, say what you want and what you don't want, make boundaries and distinctions, make decisions and hold commitment, etc (and a lot lot more!)
This experiment is about using Conscious Anger to make boundaries.
In your Beep! Book, on a new page, write the heading, "MY BOUNDARIES," and make two columns by drawing a line down the middle of the page.
Start a list in the left side of the page of Boundaries you have, boundaries about what you want and do not want, what you choose and do not choose. As the week goes on, add to your list on the left. Notice especially Boundaries that you have challenges about making. For example, you might write down:
"I don't want to be interrupted;
I want no dirty dishes in the morning;
I choose to be on time for my appointments;
I want quiet after 10pm at night;
..."
Also as the week goes on, make 10 minutes twice each day to write in the right column, ways of making each Boundary. For example:
Saying: "Wait, I am not finished talking"/ "Don't interrupt me"/"Stop!"
Declaring: "I will do the dishes by 8pm."
Declaring: "I propose that we take turns washing the dishes by 8pm;" asking, "Can you agree?"
Deciding: "I set alarms to remind myself it's time to leave"/ "I add five minutes extra time to arrive, get settled, get centered, grounded and bubbled for my appointment."
Asking: "Will you turn down the music?"
Declaring: "I want quiet now."
Closing the door, putting in ear plugs.
Practice setting these boundaries, with others and with your self, using conscious anger.
On the last day of the week, write about how this went for you. Then log into your free account at StartOver.xyz and enter the code: BUNHOOKA.07
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
If you want to do more experiments using Conscious Anger, find and join a Rage Club.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY KEEPING YOUR SWORD OF CLARITY TO HAND
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.08
Your Sword of Clarity is one of your 13 tools on your energetic toolbelt. Once you can distinguish your 5 bodies, you gain access to your energetic toolbelt through the senses of your energetic body. Read more about your 5 bodies here.
This experiment is to experientially experience your Sword of Clarity as a tool for unhookability. Start by reading the entire website Sword of Clarity slowly and thoroughly. While you are reading the website, start experiencing that your Clarity is held in your 5 bodies, and that distinctions are held in your energetic body.
Then, starting now and for the next 3 days, use your Sword of Clarity to distinguish when someone is hooked around you. Do not say anything about it, do not try to make it go away, do not try to fix them. Your experiment is to notice experientially the quality of the person’s energy, of your interaction, of the space when that person is hooked.
You might notice, for example, tightness in the space, a withdrawal from the person, coldness in their voice, aggression in the word they use, emotions that they would try to suppress, them trying to be right or clever… Distinguishing that these behaviours are symptoms of them being hooked comes from your Sword of Clarity.
Once you have completed this experiment please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.08 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
Bonus experiment: who else do you think gets hooked? Yes, you! For the next 3 days, notice experientially using your Sword of Clarity - this time towards yourself - the sensation of being hooked. Do not try to make it go away, do not try to suppress it (you cannot!), instead, admit that you are hooked by saying: ‘I am hooked’.BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY SPEAKING DISTINCTIONS OUT LOUD IN THE SPACE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.09
Today, read through the online Distinctionary.
Keep in mind that people create what they can create according to the limitations of their Thoughtware.
During this day, whenever something does not seem 'right', think about Thoughtware.
What Thoughtware is being used? By you? By the others?
What Thoughtware is being ignored? By you? By the others?
When a Distinction comes to you, say it out loud in the space. For example, "There is a difference between a Feeling and an Emotion."
It does not matter if the Distinction you say matches the rest of the conversation or not. Just say the Distinction out loud with fierceness, and then stay in the space of the Distinction. Notice what happens.
People may leave that new space and try to return to the previous space.
People may stay in the new space with you and an interesting conversation might start.
Make notes about what happens in your Beep! Book, and say what you learn.
At the end of this day, please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.09 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY LISTING 50 NITS OF YOUR BOX
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.10
You have a Box. You are not your Box.
Your box is made up of your likes and dislikes, your opinions, beliefs, justifications, preferences, stories, assumptions, expectations, and so on. It is an intricate machine built for survival. It has specific ways of filtering your output AND the input from the world with the objective of keeping you safe.
Tada! The Box technology has worked, because you have survived until now.
One of the ways to Become Unhookable is to get to know your Box. Once your Box mechanisms become conscious, you get to choose whether you want to use them or not. WARNING: this is not about killing the Box. This is about putting your "x" on the map so you can Expand the Box.
This experiment starts with self-observation. For one week, pay attention to the mechanisms of your box. Write down a list of 50 Box characteristics in your Beep! Book. It might take you more than one week to get to 50 - take the time that you need. Hint: start by reading the 18 standard Boxes website.
Once you have completed the list of 50 characteristics of your Box, please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.10 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY CREATING 10 NEW OPTIONS TO CHOOSE FROM
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.11
Human beings have the power to create stories that shape the way we interact with the world, with ourselves, with goals/obstacles, and so on. These stories are inspired by our Box mechanisms, and serve the purpose of protecting the Box. Once we have a story, we attach emotions to it and start telling our story to others and to ourselves. This shapes our reality.
To do this experiment, take 30 minutes to sit down Beep! Book and a pen. Ask yourself: what is stopping me from achieving my fullest potential? Write down all the stories that come to mind, without taking time to think about them.
Now, take a look at what you wrote. It could be that you wrote something like:
"I don't have enough money to pay for the training that I need."
or
"I can't achieve my fullest potential because I don't know what my Purpose is."
or
"I have to take over the family business."
Just as you have the power to create stories, you have the power to change your mind about them. Take one, two or three of your stories, and change them to create 10 new options for yourself to choose from. Use some Is-Glue Dissolver!
Once you have your list of 10 new options, please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.11 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY UNMIXING YOUR EMOTIONS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.12
You don't have access to your Feelings because you are hooked into your psycho-emotional chemical experience. This seems like reality.
Mixed emotions are experiences such as depression, guilt, excitement, shame, jealousy, nostalgia, resentment, despair, etc. You cannot heal the emotions until they are unmixed.
For this one-week experiment, notice when you have mixed emotions. As soon as you notice the mixed emotion, pause. Ask your heart, "what am I sad about? What am I mad about? Scared? Glad?" Start with the emotion that has the highest intensity.
Write in your Beep! Book the patterns you discover. Which mixed emotions are you most familiar with?
Ask for an Emotional Healing Process to unmix them.
Once you have completed this experiment, enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY HOLDING YOUR RED CLOTH TO THE SIDE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.13
Nobody has told you that you have an energetic tool called the Red Cloth, which allows you to stay unhookable. This is the toreador tool. Unconsciously, you have been holding the Red Cloth in front of your heart. This allows bulls (that is to say, Gremlins) to kill you, to hook you.
Before you start this experiment, get yourself a red cloth; a handkerchief-sized one that you can put in your pocket.
For one week, once a day for one conversation, pull your cloth out. Do this even if you don't know that there will be any hooks (there will be). Hold the cloth out beside you. Do not say anything, explain or justify yourself. If the person asks about it, tell them that you are doing an experiment but you are listening to them and you are with them.
Do the experiment of letting any hooks go by, into the Red Cloth.
When the conversation is over, put the cloth back in your pocket and continue with your day.
Do this once a day on each of the seven days then enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.13 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY USING YOUR DISK OF NOTHING
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.14
The Disk of Nothing is your primary energetic tool to become unhookable and most of you don't even know that you have a Disk of Nothing. Now you do.
It is your own personal 'stargate,' through which exists the immense Nothingnesss.
When a Gremlin throws a hook and you pull out your Disk of Nothing, the hook is immediately pulled into your Disk of Nothing. It cannot hold on to you because it is sucked into Nothingnesss.
This might be weird for you if you haven't been to Expand the Box, or have not yet become familiar with the other 13 Tools on your energetic tool belt. Once you start using your Disk of Nothing, you will see how powerful it is.
For this experiment, find or make a golden ring that is 10 cm across. It could be anything: plastic or iron, coloured or painted gold, or you could braid together some hay into a golden circle. This will be your Disk of Nothing. Have it before you start.
For one whole week, 3 times a day, use your Disk of Nothing in the face of Gremlin hooks.
Take it out when you know you are in a meeting, a call or a conversation with a Gremlin. It might be with your boss, your mother, or the friend of your child. Just pull it out. You can hold it next to your pocket; it doesn't have to be visible for it to work.
Have the conversation with your Disk of Noting in your hand. The Gremlin will try to hook you. Notice the hook getting pulled into Nothingness. Stay in Connection with the Being in front of you.
When you have used it 3 times a day for one week enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY DISTINGUISHING BETWEEN BULLSHIT AND NOTHING
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.15
We have been trained to be hooked by Bullshit. To be gullible to Bullshit. We even get hooked into believing our own bullshit.
There are only two things in life: Bullshit or Nothing. Nothing is true for more than 3 seconds. A moment passes, and it is gone. The rest is all stories (Bullshit). This hook is made up of the belief that the Bullshit is true.
The purpose of this experiment is to practice the distinction between story-making, and Nothingness.
For one week, choose one hour per day where you filter everything that is happening, that you're thinking or that other people are telling you. "Is this bullshit or not?"
Take out your Beep! Book and write down your major sources of Bullshit. Write down the major source of other people's Bullshit. Yes, survival; and more precision will bring more consciousness.
The more your Bullshit Detector goes off, the more hooks are contained within the Bullshit.
After one week of distinguishing between Bullshit and Nothing for one hour each day, enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.15 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY MAKING INTERESTING OFFERS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.16
You can make offers from each of your Ego-states. Any offer that is not an Adult or Archetypal offer serves the purpose of survival.
For the next week, your job is to make offers that are serving life. Start conversations with a hook-free offer that sets the context of the conversation as an extraordinary space free from Gremlin.
Watch out not to get hooked by other Gremlins' survival offers.
For example, starting a conversation about somebody that is not there is a Gremlin offer for gossip. Instead, look beyond your Box and beyond the other person's Box. Declare the other person's qualities of Being: what you appreciate about their presence, what they bring into a space, why the Earth needs them, and so on.
On the first day, make three offers for Being to Being connection, through the Adult or Archetypal ego-state. The next day, make four offers. Then 5, 6, 7, etc., until you have experimented for one week.
When you have completed this experiment, enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY HAVING YOUR GREMLIN SIT AT YOUR SIDE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.17
enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY USING YOUR VOICE BLASTER AGAINST THE VOICES
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.18
The voices are actually not in your head but just floating around you. The instant you listen to those voices, you believe them and automatically you are hooked out of the present in some swampy storyworld. Most probably, you know the swamp...
The instant you listen to a voice you're hooked. You're hooked into the value system ad storyworld of the voice. Wrost then that, you might try to hook other people into this story world so they can pity you, understand you, rescue you. Sets up survival conversations. It's a sensation to get hooked by the voices. The voices are not in your head - you think they're in your head because you've made them normal. When you shoot make sure the echo of the voice in your head also gets shot .The voices are vampire entities. They're not mine. Saying them out loud moves them to outside.
For one week, shoot all the voices. Notice how you unhook yourself by doing that. The experience of the silence and not falling into the storyworld.
enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.14 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY REMEMBERING YOUR OWN DEATH
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.19
Our unconscious ability our unconscious skill to be hookable is ignited and fed by our amnesia that this could be our last moment with this person or even on Earth.
If we lived in that possibility, the insane choice of being hooked with someone or with ourselves would seem so ridiculous, that that is how we would want to spend our last moment on Earth.
In reality, this moment you will never have again. Ever.
It is forever gone. You will never be able to change what you said, how you felt or how you behaved. It is forever in history how you chose to spend that moment.
The experiment for this week is therefore to live closer to death, live with death by your side.
Find and carry a reminder of death for seven days.
It could be the real skull of an animal.
Carry it with you everywhere you go, in the shower, when you cook, in your bed, on your desk at work, if you read stories to your children at bedtime, as a reminder that this moment could be your last, you will never get the chance to live this moment again.
That moment dies. The next moment dies.
Notice what matters. Your righteousness? Notice what you put at the center of your life. What is important?
A warning or hint: this is not about not having boundaries. On the contrary, if this is your last moment, how do you want to spend it?
When you have kept this reminder of death with you everywhere for one week you can enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.19 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY BECOMING A TRIGGER HUNTER (FOR TRIGGERS)
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.20
Trigger Sentences are vampires waiting for you to be available for their hooks.
The way you become available is you tell yourself the Trigger Sentence and that is the hook into which they can pull to feed on you.
This experiment is about you and a buddy becoming Trigger Sentence Hunters.
With a Buddy, someone else who wants to become unhookable, read SPARK 135 at the beginning of the week each with the intention of becoming a Trigger Hunter to become unhookable.
With your buddy, make a Pirate Agreement that you will pay 10 euros or dollars to a specific cause, every time you get hooked by a Trigger Sentence.
For the entire week, hunt the triggers, and refuse to be food for this kind of hook. Take a stand for yourself to not be available to the vampires.
Tell your buddy about every trigger that you capture.
At the end of your week, with your buddy, take all the money and give it to the cause.
Then you can each enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.20 in your free accounts at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY LEARNING LANGUAGE FOR THE DOMINANT BRAINS OF YOU AND YOUR TEAM
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.21
We each have four brains and we often grow dominant in one or two brains. What is important in terms of being unhookable is that some dominant brains are at war with each other.
The BLUE brain that is about planning and thinking, is often in war with the RED brain, which is about getting things done. The RED brain could be at war with the YELLOW brain, because the yellow brain is all about vision and timelessness. Dominant brains hook each other by their differences, and by their different relationships to life or to projects.
It is such a relief to have the clarity that, one, you have all four brains. Two, your project needs all four brains, and three, each brain helps you interact with the gift of the other brains that may have hooked you otherwise.
The experiment is to learn to speak in the language of the dominant brains of others, not as being adaptive, but as a way to have ecstasy.
Choose a gameworld. It can be your work, a project, a team, your family, any gameoworld where you want to be less hookable.
Map out on a piece of paper four quadrants, one for each brain. Write down the names of the people in your gameworld in the quadrant that matches their brain.
Some people might be in two categories, find out more about the four brains on the 4 Brains website.
Then, for one week, interact with the people by loving their dominant brain and empowering them in the jewels of the dominant brain, without losing your center or your authority.
For example a Red Brain might hear out the ecstasy the Green Brain has being in this team. How do they love all the people in the team, what do they love about them? A Red Brain could ask for the history of the Team from a Green Brain. A Yellow Brain could ask a Blue Brain about how the team's plans fit into their vision of the future. The Yellow Brain could build a bridge between the vision they have and a Blue Brain could help create the steps, with input from a Green Brain, for a Red Brain to take action.
All four brains care about the same thing, but from a different angle. Learn to share the love differently for the same things you love.
After one week of interacting and engaging with your Team in your four brains and their four brains, you can enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.21 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY BEING CLEAR ABOUT WHOSE PROBLEM IT IS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.23
People love problems. More precisely, people's Gremlins love problems.
Your Gremlin loves a problem too.
It is an easy technique for Gremlins to hook other people into their problem, making it even more problematic. Especially if your favourite position in the Low Drama triangle is Rescuer, you've been a pawn for other people's victim to hook you into their problem.
If you ever want to have bigger problems in your life than Who Is to Blame, for example, you want to have problems such as How to Upgrade Thoughtware on Planet Earth or How to Create a Million Nanonations, or How to Stop Old Growth Forest (and any forest) From Being Cut Down, the only way to have access to these bigger problems is to refuse to be hookable by ordinary Low Drama Gremlin problems.
This experiment is about noticing about problems.
For the next week, consciously count on people giving you their problems. It could be your mother, the cashier at the grocery store, your neighbour, your children, (parents love taking on their children's problems).
For three different problems a day for the whole week, give an answer to the hook into problems something like:
"Wow that is really a fabulous problem to have"
"I am impressed that you found such a complex problem"
Do this as an observer, making a boundary that this is not you problem.
This is not about being sarcastic. It is to appreciate the trouble that people go through to create problems that are evolutionary stepping stones to bigger problems. This is your chance to appreciate that.
After one week, you can enter the Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.23 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This experiment is worth 1 Matrix point.
25-45 Experiments for Being Unhookable
Practice is a path of Discovery!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY WITHDRAWING EXPECTATIONS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.26
Put some theory in there. The power of expectation is that either you will surround yourself with people that can unconsciously read your expectation and get hooked. An expectation is a hook. Either you are surrounded by adaptive people that get your hook, or the other option is for people to not take the hook and then basically your Gremlin gets hooked by them not getting the hook. It's a hook game.
For a week, choose one person per day, people that you would consider are the closest to you. Collegues, friends, partners, children. Your job is to spend 15-20 minutes everyday making a list of one thing you expect them, that they have been adaptive to. That you have forced them to match what your box and gremlin are comfortable with. Write down how they have been adaptive.
I expect my partner to come to bed at the same time as I do. He's adaptive by not spending time with his friends. By not finishing a project or a book that he was reading because you were going to bed and he had to stop. Not spending extra time with children. Write all the ways that they sacrifice to adapt to your expectation.
Put an extra bonus: for each person every 7 days, for the same person, what are they expecting from you that you have been adaptive to. That you have been totally hooked.
Healing process to not throw hooks, and to learn not to get hooked by expectations - put info on the expectations website - most people realize they had an expectation because they had resentment.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY DISMANTLING YOUR RESENTMENTS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.29
One week of dismantling your resentment. Can only happen with a spaceholder. It takes some skills to be able to that without your Gremlin bulshitting around. If you have resentment, then it's guaranteed that the other person had resentment towards you. One week of emotional healing process.
If you have resentment you are already hooked. You can't even think about the other person without having the hook.
Once a day dismantle one resentment with one person. Ideally you have the real person across from you. Just link to the resentment website for the process.
3 people.
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY USING APPRECIATION
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.31
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY MAKING NO ASSUMPTIONS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.32
For one week, once a day, choose one person and decide to make no assumption. Declare it to the person you are talking to. I will not make any assumption about what I think you're saying how our relationship goes or doesn'T go taboos, what is appropriate or not to say, etc. I take on this challenge to make no assumption in our conversation so that I stay unhookable. Unhookable by also their assumption. The purpose is to become unhookable to your assumption or their assumption about your space of relationship. How it goes. What's appropriate or not. What I can say or not. When you notice that you make an assumption, write it down. When you notice even later that you made an assumption write it down.
What was the assumption that you made. What's the benefit your Box and Gremlin to be hookable about this? That can be an emotional healing process.
please enter Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.12 in your free account at StartOver.xyz. Thank you!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY KEEPING A SMALL HERE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.34
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY KEEPING A SMALL YOU: LET THE PAST GO INTO THE PAST
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.35
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY MAKING BLACK HOLES
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.39
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY SHIFTING IDENTITY TO SOMETHING ELSE THAN YOUR BOX IDENTITY (FOR EXAMPLE A POSSIBILITY MANAGER OR AN ARCHETYPE)
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.40
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY PLAYING OFFENSIVE. START A MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION. EVEN WITH STRANGERS. ESPECIALLY WITH STRANGERS
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.41
46-65 Experiments for Being Unhookable
Practice is a path of Discovery!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY GETTING OUT OF YOUR MIND, LETTTING YOU HEART SPEAK
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.48
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY CONNECTING TO A TREE AND ASK FOR ITS ADVICE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.54
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY FINDING 3 THINGS THAT ARE IMPORTANT FOR YOU AND BEING ONE OF THEM
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.55
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY SINGING A TUNE FROM A BROADWAY MUSICAL
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.58
Choose a Broadway Musical
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY TAKING YOUR SHOES OFF AND GIVING YOURSELF A FOOT MASSAGE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.61
66-85 Experiments for Being Unhookable
Practice is a path of Discovery!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY LETTING YOUR BOX BE HOOKED OR CONFUSED AND YOU ARE NOT
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.71
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT AND NOTICING WHICH PARTS OF YOU WANTS IT
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.73
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY USING IS-GLUE DISSOLVER
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.76
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY USING IS-GLUE CONSCIOUSLY
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.77
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY CHECKING YOUR CURRENT STATE OF ACTION AGAINST YOUR LIFE MISSION
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.81
86-99 Experiments for Being Unhookable
Practice is a path of Discovery!
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY COMMUNICATING YOUR FULL FOUR FEELINGS CYCLE
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.86
BECOME UNHOOKABLE BY ADMITTING THAT YOU ARE HOOKED
Matrix Code: BUNHOOKA.99
By saying 'I am hooked right now'. It takes about 20minutes for the hormones released in your system by the hook to go away. You can tell the person you are conversing with: 'I need about 20 minutes, I will come back and talk to you then'.
"Being Unhookable means having the capacity to act independently from the circumstances,
no matter what the circumstances are."
-Clinton Callahan
Bonus S.P.A.R.K. Experiments
(SPARK161.00) SPARK 161
When you lose the empty space of silence in yourself you are already hooked.
SPARK161.01 Stop filling your inner silent space with random noise, such as whistling, humming to yourself, talking to yourself, inner arguments with others, disavowing unexpressed feelings, justifying your actions or inactions, or bouncing your attention from shiny object to colorful object to loud object back to shiny object, all the while listening to the endless stream of judgments, criticisms, comparisons, excitements and worries from your mind. It is almost impossible to stop the space-filling because it automatically starts up again so quickly. So instead, focus on doing something different, for example, enjoying the experience of getting to stretch out your being in the warm evolutionary bath of inner silence.
SPARK161.02 Remember your inner space of silence each time you start a new conversation, such as when the phone rings, when you greet someone at the café, each time you say “Hello” to someone, each time you begin a meeting, or each time you interact with a cashier. Use the beginning of the encounter as a trigger for relocating to your inner space of silence. Split your attention and keep 10% on the experience of stretching out your being luxuriously into your inner silence while the rest of your attention interacts with the others.
SPARK161.03 Each time you detect yourself being internally or externally hooked immediately make a concise yet richly descriptive note in your Beep! Book about what just triggered your reaction and what you thought, said, felt and did. At first your list may grow impossibly long and complex as your underworld reveals its true dimensions. Let it be so. Becoming aware of what you were not already aware of is a natural procedure. It may even be what you came here for. Trying to ignore what you have been for so long in denial about does not make your underworld go away. Instead make it a practice to welcome disillusionment. Doggedly extend your Beep! Book list and bring it with you to your next Possibility Lab. Then sit in the Possibility Chair and use each incident as a gateway to an evolutionary process. You may be surprised by how momentous the seemingly little things turn out to be. This is the fastest way to build matrix that I have ever discovered.
(SPARK010.00) SPARK 010
Between the outer world (sights, sounds, physical sensations, smells, experiences, relationships, external conversations, etc.), and the inner world (concepts, memories, reactions, images, internal conversations, etc.), there exists a thin space of freedom called the gap.
SPARK010.01 Accept an invitation to an informal dinner party where people are relaxed and interacting in a friendly social atmosphere. Select 5 minutes in the middle of the party. During these 5 minutes neither smile nor laugh, no matter what is said or what happens. If you can avoid the impulse to laugh you may be in the gap.
SPARK010.02 Go to a romantic or adventure movie at the cinema. Sit two thirds of the way back from the screen in the center of the row. For the whole movie do not look at the screen. Only look at the other people who are in the
theater. If you can avoid “snapping into” the space of the story in the movie and never forget that you are at a movie theater you may be in the gap.SPARK010.03 Spend a day at an industrial trade show fair. Walk up to booth after booth. No matter what the sales representative says to you, you say nothing at all in return. Make no faces, use no gestures, and offer no explanation. Stay completely relaxed and alert, looking at whatever interests you at the booth. After a while leave without warning and go to the next booth. If you can avoid the automatic reflex of speaking when spoken to you may be in
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